daughters of Charles Edwin and Sarepta A. Dake Smith and granddaughters of
John Hiram and Emmalissa Gorton Smith
and
Benjamin C. and Mary Jane Carman Dake
PREFACE
A little knowledge of the surroundings furnishes a background for my story. The Dake Homestead, like so many of its day, was situated up a lane from the road. The lane entered, from the southeast corner, a large open rectangle, upon the north side of which were the front yard -- where the old well and crabapple tree still are -- and the side yard. On the west side of the rectangle, which contained a horse block and hitching post, were the barn yard gate and the carriage house. This building was large enough to house the Democrat wagon, carriage, sleighs, and many farm implements, and also a bricked in iron "arch kettle" where the water was heated for the butchering, so that this work could be finished inside where there was protection from the cold. West of the side yard was the barn yard, mostly enclosed on the north by the "Eli" which had been the old house, moved there when the later one was built, and on the west by the 100 foot barn, with some open basement underneath. The south side was the only one wholly unprotected, and all open spaces had a high vertical board fence. The main part of the house, facing south (Marion2 has the only existing picture of it), was colonial in type (with no piazza on the main part when it was first built), with five small-paned windows upstairs, four downstairs, and a central door framed on each side by long narrow panes. It was painted white, with green blinds. There was a wing to the west, and beyond that, a large woodshed. Facing the sunny south were, in the east corner the parlor, the front hail in the middle and in the southwest corner the winter kitchen, used in summer on state occasions as a dining room. This winter kitchen opened on a side porch situated in the angle formed by the main part and wing. On each end of the main house was a chimney, the one on the east receiving a labyrinth of stove pipes from the two east chambers, the parlor and the nursery room, while into the west one went the chimney from the double fireplace (between the summer and winter kitchens), the winter and summer kitchen stove pipes, and the little pipe from the west front chamber, or girls’ room. The west back chamber, the boys’ room, was unheated, except as a crook of the pipe from the front one, passed into it, and directly made a turn into the chimney. Perhaps the boys and hired men who occupied the three beds in the room, tempered it slightly, but their homespun shirts, worn day and night, and the homespun wool blankets, must have been life savers. In the wing were the summer kitchen, a stairway to the attic, and the "back buttery" on the north. The summer kitchen had a door to the south opening on the side piazza, and one to the west opening into the woodshed. In Grandfather’s3 day the wood shed was always piled to the attic floor (there was an attic even over that, where butternuts were stored), in the fall, with good hard wood cut and split to proper sizes for the kitchen, and for the "chunk" stoves which warmed the house. There was a fireplace and brick oven between the summer and winter kitchens, but it was never used in my day except to "bile sap" in the spring. Then the summer kitchen side was lighted. Perhaps a little description of the interior of the whole house might give a picture, not only of that, but of the period. Downstairs, let me begin with everyday details, and move gradually to that Holy of Holies, the Parlor. I have mentioned the shed piled full of wood, the only fuel for the entire house, winter or summer. The "back buttery" behind the summer kitchen in the wing, was largely a store room for the various supplies bought in quantity, or produced on the place, and for the eggs which were accumulating ready for a trip to Frank Hewitt’s grocery, in Saratoga.
1. The home of Benjamin C. and Mazy Jane Carman Dake
2. Marion, the daughter of [Aunt] Mary Jane Dake McConchic
3. Benjamin C. Dake
4. Mary Jane Carman Dake
5. Jennie Emmalissa Smith Rowell, sister of the storyteller, Cornella Smith Seabury
6. Dorothy Seabury Langdon, the daughter of Cornella Smith Seabury
I REMEMBER
"I remember, I remember the house where I was born", but not "The little window where the sun came peeping in at morn", for the window was a big one, yes, two of them, and the "Nursery Room" faced north. There Charlie, Jennie and I first saw the light of day, and were efficiently cared for by our capable Grandmother Dake. Many are the times Aunt Mary has told me of Mattie Carman (with whom she had been privileged to spend the night) and her racing home as fast as their eight-year-old legs could carry them, to see the new baby, a black-haired, black-eyed little object. The ties between Aunt Mary and me were much stronger then the difference in our ages warranted. Perhaps it was partly the lack of other companionship on her part, for Mattie Carman and Emma Wilsey each lived a mile away, besides which "Emmer" belonged to a family of whom my Grandmother remarked in tones of disgusted disapproval. "The Wilsey wimen say ‘Gosh". To this day I never use the word without a tiny pin prick of conscience, plus a feeling of doing something "low down"; so hear ye, all who believe in early training. After all, though, it may be just as well Grandmother is not around to hear the things her granddaughters say in moments of stress! Or is she? Sometimes I feel her presence. Anyway, Aunt Mary and I built and shared the playhouse halfway down the lane leading to the main road, under a tree whose seed pods provided our knives of a lilliputian type. The playhouse had walls, partitions and furniture of stones, the piano, I recall, being of the "Grand" style - a somewhat triangular flat stone mounted on three smaller ones, while the stool was a round, flat rock. The one exception to the stone furniture was the dish cupboard, which was skillfully constructed of a brick laid flat on each end, a shingle, two more bricks, a single, etc., till our stock of china was duly displayed to advantage. None of your toy store stuff was this china. We repaired to the spot where Grandmother with lamentations laid her broken dishes down in what she thought to be their last rest. Then we dug out pieces which suited our fancy, most of the "stone Chiny" variety, but we never shared her grief if some awkward uncle or hired man made havoc of a flowered dish. Rather a gleam of pleasurable anticipation lighted our eyes, and anon a treasure added to our collection. there was the effort of stocking the larder in preparation for possible guests. We learned that soil from different places on the farm "baked" differently, some being adapted to piecrust of the open top variety, while some made better "bread" or "cake", and some had to be used as "gravy" because of its pouring quality. Vegetables and fruits were ours without the asking. Even at that age we had the housewifely instinct to outdo the "meal" Mat or Em had provided on the occasion of our last visit. I must admit that in case of company Grandmother supplemented our baking with fried cakes, possibly some of her homemade sage cheese --with its green mottled look as if in an advanced state of mould, but tasting like a gift of the Gods — and milk. Too much visiting was not encouraged, and we submitted meekly. "No. you were over to Mattie’s last week, and I don’t want you bothering Aunt Eunice." (Aunt Eunice’s husband was Grandmother’s brother, Samuel Carman.) In spite of her purely district school education, Mattie was for many years the highly successful principal of the South Street school in Baliston Spa. But all this was much later. My very first memory is of a drowsy early spring day, when the doors were still kept closed against the lingering chill from snow banks not yet surrendered to the warm sun. Beside the cook stove which also furnished the heat for the "winter kitchen" were three persons. Grandfather by the hearth was seated in his arm chair leaning forward over the cane upon which his clasped hands rested, the western sun making a halo of his white hair. Besides the open oven door sat Grandmother, arrayed in her second-best cap, sacred to afternoons, the click of her rapidly moving knitting needles the only sound to break the stillness. In a little rocker between the two was a small two-year-old girl, who was myself. The warm weather had called the hens from their winter hibernation in a room of the "old House", then forming an "Ell" of the barn, and some of them had strayed into the side yard, through a gate left open upon the side porch. Suddenly, just outside the door, the somewhat nostalgic silence was rent by a most lusty and triumphant "Ohh - ook -a - hoo". Why do those trivial things remain fixed on one’s mind, while those so much more important, fade? It doesn’t seem possible I can remember it, but Grandfather died the February after I was three, and this was the spring before. The next recollection is of breakfast -- no, of a breakfast. Around the long table were seated my aunt and uncles, while by the stove stood my Grandmother baking her good raised buckwheat pancakes, the tears running down her cheeks and occasionally splashing on the hot stove. My three-year-old mind sensed something depressing in the atmosphere. No one was eating. Byron, Earl, Starks, Charles, and Mary were devoting themselves with unwonted assiduity to my wants in the matter of brown sugar moistened with a spoonful of thick cream as top dressing on the final pancake coming as a reward of merit after the sausage-and-gravy trimmed ones. Then, too, there was a strange silence around the table. During the night, the patriarchal old grandfather had gone to be with God whom for so many years he had served according to the light given him and the Baptist guidance which was his hereditary faith. While he was a kind husband to Asenath and Grandmother, there is not doubt his heart was always with the beautiful young bride of his youth, Sarepta, whom he mourned for ten years before marrying her younger sister, Asenath. It seems the same day (but I know it wasn’t) when my father came out of the parlor to take me by the hand, and Charlie in his arms, and lead us back into the midst of a black robed, black veiled, weeping group gathered around a long black box. He raised me up to look wonderingly inside, and there was Grandfather asleep in his Sunday clothes. Father, who had a good deal of hidden sentiment in his nature, no doubt thought the occasion would impress itself upon our minds, and it is one of the memories I shall always carry. Then he took us back to the winter kitchen where Emma Wilsey and Mattie Carman took charge of us, holding us up to the windows to see the procession move down the snowbank bordered path to the lane, where the sleighs were lined up, and then slowly out of sight to the "Ville" Baptist Church, where friends and neighbors were gathered to pay a last tribute of respect to a good neighbor and citizen, while the sweet-toned Baptist bell tolled off the years of his life. Grandmother outlived Grandfather many years, as she was much younger, but both rest on the little knoll which is the old Middle Grove Cemetery, while Sarepta and Asenath returned to the last home of the Woods, beyond Greenfleld Center, where their century-old graves may still be seen, with these inscriptions:In memory of
Sarepta Dake,*
wife of Benjamin C. Deacke*
and daughter of Daniel and Mary Wood
who died in the 23rd year of her age
Aug.30, 1826
In memory of
Asenath Wood
wife of Benj. C. Dake*
Jan. 1,1840